Development of Children through "I Treasure You" Positive Parenting

Every parent was a child at one time. Each of us has heard the words of others, picked up their suggestions and made them into beliefs. Some of those beliefs have been helpful, many may have placed limits on us based on the source. A parent's role in children's development is as effective as the thoughts, words, feelings and actions given to children. When a parent treasures a child, that child's self esteem will build and grow.

 

Psychologists have known for some time how children develop. Children are like sponges.  They absorb so much from their environment, even before they begin talking.  What they learn and experience at a very young age may not be remembered by their conscious minds, but the feelings and self-talk becomes embedded in who they are and what they believe about themselves. Parenting children using "I Treasure You" notes will build confidence and help children experience their parents' love.

 

The social development of children is a natural concern for every parent. Parents influence their children's social development in many ways. First, most children inherit not only their parents' looks but some of their characteristics. Children's social development is connected to what they learn about themselves in their families. In some cases, inheritance has a very deep influence on a child.  Information from scientists and psychologists confirms this fact. The second way that parents influence their children is by what they say to them, especially when something concerns the child directly.

 

The idea of using positive affirmations for your child development strategy is to instill a strong sense of self and a positive sense of worth for him or her to draw on at anytime.  It also teaches him or her to use optimistic thought patterns and have a bright outlook.  You can personalize your child’s affirmations depending on how old he or she is and his or her particular hobbies and personality. 

 

Social skills are very important to be a contributing member of society.  How children learn social skills is most often to observe their parents' behavior.  When parents model good social skills, it allows their children to learn good behavior.  Conversely, when parents have poor manners their children pick up these bad habits.  The way that parents treat each other and those around them show kids how to treat others.  A child learning good manners is important to every parent.

 

Written affirmations based on the "I Treasure You" approach work best for building family esteem when children are able to read and understand the words. Therefore, a written note should contain words that the child or teen can understand. A second grader's vocabulary will be different from that of a six grader or a teenager. Each age has its own needs for encouragement, love and support. Think of an "I Treasure You" note like a spoken compliment that is written down. If you talk to your children on their level, then write down those same words in a note that they can read and keep.