Fathers form a solid foundation of security and support as a cornerstone in their children’s lives.  Fathers and other male figures, such as grandfathers, uncles, coaches and even godfathers are the people to whom young children turn to for life's issues big and small.  They are the ones to show how to do things, play sports and games, and show strength in times of a child's fear and uncertainty. 

 

For the father and children alike, the period of time from 6 to 18 years can be trying to say the least.  However, this is exactly the time when father figures can have considerable influence over their children’s behavior and the type of adults they will ultimately become.

 

In the world today, it is not uncommon for children to be raised by divorced dads and single fathers.  With divorce rates up, more children and parents are finding themselves in this situation.  However, just because something is common, does not make it easy.  For divorced fathers and single dads alike, raising children can be very difficult. One of the best things that a divorced father or single dad can do for his children, and for yourself, is to consistently affirm your love for them.  Let them know on a daily basis that they are loved and treasured, no matter what your day may have been like or how poor their behavior may have been. 

 

When your baby girl is born there is an instant connection with her.  As she grows into a toddler and a preschooler, she is "Daddy's Little Girl" and you are her hero.  The connection between daughter and father is like a precious gift, and there is a bond of love that is shared between the two that runs deep.  This bond though is often tested as your daughter grows and becomes her own person.

 

One way to stay connected with your daughter during the school day is to write an "I Treasure You" note and tuck it into her lunch box.  This doesn’t have to be anything profound. A kind word, a compliment, an acknowlegement, even a simple smiley face or a joke will be enough to remind her that you love her and are thinking of her even when you aren’t right there.  Girls especially love to receive these types of notes and will surely be the envy of all of her friends. A written note can be kept and read again and again. Of course, as your girl grows in her ability to read, you can write "I Treasure You" notes that correspond to her reading level.

 

 

A father’s family influence is often greater as the young adults begin to have families of their own.  When grand children become part of the picture, it is dad's responsibility to teach his grand children the same love affirming "I Treasure You" techniques that he has used for his children. That way, you are extending your influence of kindness and love to a whole new generation.

 

Using "I Treasure You" notes and cards play such an important part in letting children know that they are loved, respected and needed by their parents and grandparents.  Children never outgrow their need for their parents' love and support. Grandchildren always need the positive role model and influence of their grandfathers. A simple message on an "I Treasure You" card can lift their spirit and let them know (no matter their age) that you believe in them and that they can succeed in life and their own relationships.