Affirming the Special Connection Between a Mom and Son 

Mothers and sons have such a special connection, right from birth this is a relationship that is like no other.  A mother a very unique opportunity when raising her son to allow him to fully enjoy the company of women and to respect them for their entire lives.  Without the love and affection of a mother, a boy often grows into a man that harbors resentment and animosity towards all women.

When a boy is young the mother and son relationship is an easy one to cultivate.  However, as the boy grows, this relationship is often rocky.  A boy naturally begins to identify more and more with his father and other males in his life and less and less with his mother.  While it may be tempting to say that boys are boys and don't need their mothers, this is not the case.  Boys need their moms for love and support throughout their entire lives. Often, boys learn to be sensitive to the needs of others from their mothers.

In the past, the mother tended to step into the back ground as her son grew, leaving the older boys' nurturing and up bring to their fathers.  Today, however, there are moms teaching boys how to become men all over the world.  Sometimes, this is the result of divorce or a death of the father, but more often this is a direct result of women who realize that their sons' can be more affectionate and more help around the house if they are taught young.

It is important for mom and son to connect with each other on a personal level, as the boy enters school and sports this becomes more difficult, but is still important.  One great way to connect with your son is to send a an "I Treasure You" note to school in his lunch box or backpack.  Boys are not into "girly" notes, so when you write an "I Treasure You" note, focus on your son's accomplishments, kind deeds and other positive traits that you admire and respect. Sometimes, a boy would like a joke (the grosser the better) or maybe a sticker that has been lovingly packing between his sandwich and his pudding.

As her son grows, a mother is sometimes slow to grow with him and can get stuck in a rut treating him as if he were still her little boy.  She needs to get more creative when affirming her love for him.  Mailing "I Treasure You" notes or placing them near a Treasuring Chest Sending is a great way for her to reach out to her son without anyone else knowing, he will appreciate the mom and son relationship that they have even if he doesn't verbalize it.

Many mothers may find it difficult to affirm their relationship with their son, but the end result is worth the work.  The love and affection that is cultivated when you affirm to your son your love for him is the best reward of all.  The fact that he will treat the women in his future with love and respect is a happy bonus.