The Importance of a Mother's Influence on Her Children's Happiness and Growth

Mothers know that they are the cornerstone in their young children’s lives.  Mothers and other maternal figures, such as grandmothers, aunts and even godmothers are the people to whom young children turn to for life’s issues big and small.  They are the ones to kiss the boo-boos, take the temperatures and find the missing teddy bear at bed time.  But what about when the babies aren’t babies anymore?  Many mothers find themselves at odd with the role of ultimate caregiver.

 

Many mothers help children grow and develop in a family. Mothers have the unique knack for creating and using comforting and affirming words to help their children develop self confidence, learn more about themselves and increase their self esteem. By writing "I Treasure You" notes, mothers can pass on the written affirmation to their children which lasts when mom's spoken words can't be heard.

 

For divorced mothers and single mothers alike, raising children can be very difficult.  A mothers’ love for children does not suffer because she is single, and her parenting skills needn’t either.  However, parenting children between the ages of 6 and 18 is difficult for anyone, and a single mother faces a different set of obstacles when raising her children then do her married counterparts.  There is no husband to hand the children off to if the day has been stressful, no one to help when a child is sick or misbehaving and no one to comfort you when you need it. 

 

Children in this age range are changing on a daily basis, making parenting even tougher.  When they are young they are just beginning to become independent, one minute they are pushing you away and the next they are hanging on you like a toddler.  Unfortunately, for the single or divorced mother, teenagers are much the same.  They desperately want their independence, but still have so much to learn about the world and they need you to guide them.

 

The daughter mother relationship is special. When your baby girl is born there is an instant connection with her.  As she grows into a toddler and a preschooler, you are her hero.  The bond between daughter and mother is like nothing else on Earth, there is an adoration that is shared between the two that runs deep.  This bond though is often tested as your daughter grows and becomes her own person.  So how do you keep such a deep and loving bond alive while still allowing her to grow into her own woman?  Connecting with your daughter while she is little is relatively easy, however, as she grows this can become more and more difficult. 

 

A mom and son have such a special connection, right from birth this is a relationship that is like no other.  A mother a very unique opportunity when raising her son to allow him to fully enjoy the company of women and to respect them for their entire lives.  Without the love and affection of a mother, a boy often grows into a man that harbors resentment and animosity towards all women.

When a boy is young the mother and son relationship is an easy one to cultivate.  However, as the boy grows, this relationship is often rocky.  A boy naturally begins to identify more and more with his father and other males in his life and less and less with his mother.  While it may be tempting to say that boys are boys and don't need their mothers, this is not the case.  Boys need their moms for love and support throughout their entire lives.

A mother's job does not stop after the children move into a home of their own.  Child parenting, does not stop as they become young adults, it just changes form.  They still need to be loved and guided, but in a different, more adult way.   Young adults that are entering a new and exciting phase in their lives need encouragement and love affirming moments to help them keep their self confidence and self esteem at the same high levels that they are used to.

Mothers offer a unique way to treasure their children and help their family grow and develop. Take every opportunity to affirm their worth and the riches of their friendship will be with you for life.